hot cocoa mix

Hot Cocoa Mix and The Power of Intentional Nurturing

We’re on our third snow day here in Bend so I thought it would be a good time to finally post this super simple hot cocoa mix recipe in case you run out of store-bought stuff. I wrote what follows a few weeks ago but I had no pictures to go along with it as hot cocoa is usually made spur of the moment and consumed quickly around here.

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Hooray for snow days!

Monday mornings are definitely the roughest of the rough mornings in our house. None of us are morning people so they’re almost never without drama but after taking full advantage of late weekend nights, Mondays totally crash our party. This week’s Monday morning the lies about being out of bed followed by wails and stomps were particularly intense from one 12-year-old as was the sincere exhaustion caused by a restless night from the other one. It was time for mom to step up.

I started by asking one if she’d like some eggs. In a whiny whisper, she said she really would if it wasn’t too much trouble. I then called upstairs, asked the same question, and was met with a “no” from an anguished voice that made me wince and go straight to the kitchen. I got the eggs going and took the milk out of the fridge to heat in the microwave. I then took the hot cocoa mix container out of the cupboard, found it was empty, and rolled my eyes. It was fine, I would address (once again) that particular issue another time and I had a quick fix. I poured some cocoa powder and sugar in the container, stirred it up, and carried on. I served the eggs and hot cocoa to the child downstairs then poured a small shot of fresh pressed coffee (just enough to make her feel indulgent) in the other hot cocoa and took it upstairs where I was met with total surprise and gratitude. The drama was diffused and the girls got out the door with actual smiles on their faces.

So, you might ask, what’s the big deal? Don’t you fix breakfast for your kids every morning? After all, you don’t even work outside the home and it’s apparent from this blog that food and cooking are pretty central in your life. The answer is no, I rarely do, for the following reasons. First of all, I’m only functioning at about 60% most mornings. Not proud of it, just a fact. Secondly, they’re usually pretty self-sufficient in the morning. Somewhere around the third grade, they both decided they wanted to get their own breakfast and who was I to argue? They can easily fix cereal or yogurt, toast a bagel, or grab a bar on their way out the door and more often than not they handle it. (Although, if I’m being totally honest, not as well now as they did in the third grade.)

That morning, the difference a couple of simple acts made in everyone’s start to the day got me thinking about the power of intentional nurturing versus the martyrdom we all too often succumb to when it comes to raising our children.  Stay with me, this isn’t just an excuse for lazy parenting. Obviously, if I waited on them every morning like that the outcome would not have been the same because we don’t appreciate what we take for granted. And, honestly, there are many times I offer help in the morning (really, I do) but they refuse it just like they did in the third grade because it feels good for them to be self-reliant. Allowing them the responsibility of taking care of themselves creates the opportunity for us to step in and take the burden off of them when it really counts. Monday morning drama is just one example.

This is Ella’s version of hot cocoa mix. She likes to combine the powdered sugar and granulated sugar but you can use one or the other.

Hot Cocoa Mix

(Make as much as you need. 1 cup of the mix will yield about 8 servings of hot cocoa.)

one part unsweetened cocoa powder

one part powdered sugar/granulated sugar

pinch of salt

Seriously, that’s all you need plus hot milk.

Go ahead and measure and start heating your milk (whatever kind of milk you drink) because this won’t take long.

ingredients for hot cocoa mix

Start by taking the spoon that was left in the cocoa powder out of the package and putting it in the sink. (This might only be at my house – we seem to have trouble putting anything away. Except, of course, empty containers.)

spoon left in cocoa powder

Use something handy like a mason jar or another glass food storage container and fill it about one-third of the way full with cocoa powder.

cocoa powder

Add enough powdered sugar/granulated sugar to fill the jar two-thirds of the way full. This will give you a 1:1 ratio of cocoa to sugar. If you want it sweeter, add a little more sugar, less sweet, a little less. It’s not rocket science.

powdered sugar

sugar and cocoa powder

Add a small pinch of salt then stir until fully combined. I find the handle end of a clean long spoon works well.

stirring hot cocoa mix

Place a couple heaping teaspoons in a mug.

hot cocoa mix in cup

Add just enough hot milk (about one tablespoon but don’t bother measuring) to make a smooth slurry. This should prevent lumpy hot cocoa.

hot cocoa slurryhot cocoa slurry

Slowly stir in the rest of the hot milk. Top with whipped cream, marshmallows, candy canes, whatever you like or nothing at all.

If you really want to make their morning, try baking up these scones or muffins for extra credit.

stirring milk in hot cocoa

I’m guessing one of the reasons my girls like hot cocoa so much is that their dad made it for me almost every day when I was pregnant with them in place of my morning coffee. Talk about the power of intentional nurturing. I give him a hard time because he’s not really the caretaker type but he definitely steps up when it counts most. This week he’s been the neighborhood hero with his big truck and snow plow!

snow plow on truck

 

2 thoughts on “Hot Cocoa Mix and The Power of Intentional Nurturing

  1. Your cocoa recipe sounds delicious, Molly. And I could use a cup of it since it is below zero this morning in Maine on this last day of February. The good news? The wind has died down so we are not suffering from wind chills today. I make an overnight oatmeal with frozen blueberries, nuts, a small amount of maple syrup and almond milk, that I pack in my husband’s lunch each day. He leaves very early for work and has a long commute. A few seconds in the microwave and he has a nutritious breakfast each morning. I alternate this with breakfast sandwiches that I freeze – filling made with eggs/ham or bacon/spinach and whatever other veggie I decide to through into the mix. He definitely feels nurtured and I love doing it since it expresses my gratitude for his hard work. Food is love, right?

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